Traditionally, “foreplay” was considered to be something that a man had to do to get his partner ready for sexual intercourse. Today, foreplay has become an integral part of the whole lovemaking experience. It is true that impromptu sexual encounters without foreplay can sometimes be some of the best sexual experiences, but in general, most women will agree that good sexual encounters mean that you learn the importance of foreplay. A more vigilant form of foreplay will bring increased pleasure to both partners, and make the whole lovemaking experience more enjoyable.

Spice up your sex life

Especially with age, both partners will need a little extra spice to get fully aroused and achieve maximum pleasure. Hence you need to learn the importance of foreplay. The man will need to prolong foreplay to get an erection and the woman will need the same to become properly lubricated. Most sex experts agree that there is no such thing as spending too much time on foreplay. The trick is to start intercourse when both partners are peaking with excitement and are having a hard time controlling their desires.

What is foreplay?

You’ve gotta learn the importance of foreplay, which can encompass a wide range of activities, including hugging, fondling, undressing, kissing, petting, and performing oral sex. Why is foreplay so important? First of all, men who cuddle and kiss their partners and know how to enjoy sensitive foreplay will often find that their partners will not only enjoy sexual intercourse more, but will also see their partners reach orgasm more easily. Most women need prolonged stimulation in order to reach a state of complete arousal, and foreplay will provide them with the required stimulation.

No ultimate foreplay

There is no such thing as the ultimate foreplay, and it is not about pressing the right buttons in the right order. It is about understanding what makes your partner get hot and delivering the things that make her experience intense pleasure. All women are different. Some get off on being lightly kissed all over their necks while others enjoy direct oral stimulation.

There are many ways to give your partner extreme sensations, but one thing is for sure: It all begins in her brain. Simply tell her how beautiful she is and how much you appreciate her sexy body. By complimenting her appearance, especially if her confidence level is low, you are giving her added security and excitement, as well as giving her good reasons to go all out with the foreplay.

Set the mood

To learn the importance of foreplay you have to know how to set the mood. The next step is paying attention to romantic details. Creating the right environment for sexual intercourse can be crucial, especially at mature stages in the relationship. For example, make sure the room is warm, the lighting subdued, and the sheets clean. Once the mood is right, take the time to undress her because the act of removing your partner’s clothes can be an important part of foreplay. Many have found that undressing increases the eroticism, it stimulates and intensifies the feeling.

Often, women spend a lot of money on nice lingerie because it makes them feel sexy and they want it to stay on for a while. Instead of getting her completely naked, remove her bra strap, kiss her shoulder, then put it back on again. Do the same with her underwear, and, again; compliment how good she looks in it.

Kissing and foreplay

During foreplay, go as slow as you can. This will tease her. Begin by kissing and caressing her. A kiss is usually the first physical expression of desire but it is also often forgotten during sexual intercourse. During intercourse, you should kiss every part of your partner’s body and not be restricted to the mouth. Most women complain that their partners don’t kiss long enough and rush the movement directly to the genital area. Don’t be shy to experiment on every part of her body and remember to prolong the foreplay with more kissing and caressing.

A good time for learning

This article focused on the importance of foreplay as it is a learning experience. Foreplay is the perfect time to spend understanding what your partner likes because without that, you will never learn what she really needs to be fully stimulated. Don’t be shy; ask for feedback and also give your own. Both partners profit from good communication during foreplay and lovemaking. Also, without cutting the intensity of the moment, ask her what she really likes and what makes her go wild.

The time of her life

As a general rule, if she is satisfied with her sexual experience, she will usually make sure that you are satisfied as well. Good luck, and remember that only practice makes perfect. Don’t ever forget the importance of foreplay.

By David Strovny

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The difference between a clitoral and vaginal orgasm is where you are being stimulated to achieve orgasm, not where you feel the orgasm. The clitoris has a central role in elevating feelings of sexual tension. During sexual excitement, the clitoris swells and changes position. The blood vessels through the whole pelvic area also swell, causing engorgement and creating a feeling of fullness and sexual sensitivity. Your inner vaginal lips swell and change shape. Your vagina balloons upward and your uterus shifts position in your pelvis.

For some women, the outer third of their vagina and the cervix are also very sensitive or even more sensitive than the clitoris. When stimulated during intercourse or other vaginal penetration, these women do have intense orgasms. This would be what is referred to as a vaginal orgasm without clitoral stimulation.

In reality, orgasms are a very individual experience and there is no one correct pattern of sexual response. Whatever feels good to you, makes you feel alive and happy, and connected with your partner is what matters.

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There are many diets out there but have you heard of the sex diet?

Foods that are healthy for your heart are also good for your libido. If your arteries are clogged, there is no way the blood will flow to your penis or vagina.

Oysters are a well-known aphrodisiac because oysters contain zinc which increases libido. One oyster has the daily recommended dose of zinc so you can only imagine what a plate of them can do. If you don’t like Oysters then you can get zinc from any source of protein. Protein is essential for producing sperm in men. Some foods that are high in zinc are turkey, beef, beans, and pine nuts.

Pine nuts, out of all the nuts, have the most amount of protein and they are full of healthful mono-saturated fats which helps lower your bad cholesterol.

There are some veggies that are good for your sex drive too. Asparagus contains foliate which is necessary for histamine production and histamine is necessary for both males and females to reach orgasm. Other vegetables are artichokes and avocados.

There are also some spices that are great. Chili pepper and ginger help to improve circulation. Hot spices like cayenne, curry and cumin help warm things up.

Some foods that are good for your heart and good for your libido include red wine and champagne. Too much alcohol can have an adverse effect and actually decrease sexual potency.
Chocolate is known to release serotonin in your brain, which provides a calming soothing effect so that sort of gets you in the mood. But the sugar also gets you heart going because it increases your serum glucose levels so you feel a rush of energy.

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There are 100’s of Top 10’s out there, but they’ve all forgotten one of the most important areas of our lives - Sex. Here are Top 10 Sex Tips for the Summer. Add these to your list and you’re guaranteed to have more and better sex by the end of the summer!

1. Lose the Idealism
   To truly enjoy sex, there is one thing that you absolutely must do, stop worrying about what other people think. Get rid of all of those self-imposed limiting beliefs that are keeping your sex life utterly boring.
2. Try New Things
   Vow to try new sex positions, new sex toys, and new sex acts this summer. Variety is the spice of life and adventure broadens your horizons. Don’t be timid, keep an open mind and try something new in bed, whether it’s anal sex, a threesome, or living out your wildest fantasies. It could even be as simple as just admitting that it’s OK to like sex.
3. Embrace Erotica
   Read more erotic books and watch more erotic movies (ideally with your partner, but if you’re flying solo - enjoy!). Commit to reading at least one erotic novel each month. Find an author and a theme that you like and start reading. I challenge you to get through one whole book without getting excited.
4. Have More Sex. Lose Weight. Feel Great.
   Sex is great exercise and it is WAY more fun than going to the gym. Sex improves circulation and aerobic fitness by increasing heart rate and respiration, and exercises many major muscle groups. Did you know that you can burn between 100 to 300 calories per hour during sex?
5. Talk About Sex
   Have a conversation with your partner or friends about sex. Again, lose the idealism. If you have a partner, how else are you going to know what turns them on? How will they know what turns you on? Not talking about sex is a certain recipe for disaster, or at least a really boring sex life.
6. Masturbate
   This is something that just about everyone does and almost no one talks about. It’s one of the best ways to relax, ease your tension, and get in touch with your body. Take a time-out from your hectic schedule and spend some quality time with yourself. If you can’t enjoy and love your own body, how can you expect anyone else to please you?
7. Live Your Fantasies
   Make a commitment to live your fantasies this year. What do you think about when no one else is around or when you’re masturbating? Write it down and share it with your partner. Who knows, they may just want to help you play out your favorite fantasy and you’ll both be in for some exciting surprises. Just talking about your fantasies with your partner can often lead to hot sex on the spot.
8. Organize Your Sex Toys
   Quit tossing that vibrator under the bed with the dust bunnies. Keep your ropes, leather straps, dildos, vibrators, and other sex toys clean, organized, and carefully stored in a drawer or box. They’ll last longer and you’ll always know where to find them when you need them. Sex toys may not be your thing, but don’t make that decision until you’ve at least tried several variations.
9. Dress to Impress
   Do you really expect your partner to see you wearing your baggy shorts with the hole in the backside and those glasses at the end of your nose as you read the paper, and still find you sexy? Do you feel sexy when you dress that way - NO. Save those “extra comfy” clothes for those times when you’re alone - wear something nice when you’re together, or at least get dressed.
10. Put Your Partner First
    Guys, be more considerate - let your partner orgasm first. She puts up with a lot, so try putting her first once in a while and give her a screaming orgasm (or two or three) before you even think about it. Ladies, surprise your man with impromptu quickie sex - they love it!

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Pelvic Floor Exercises or Kegel exercises strengthen the pelvic muscles. Kegal exercises can also increase sexual pleasure for females and their partners. A newly postpartum woman can retrain her pelvic floor muscles to their pre-pregnancy strength and tone. Kegel exercises are also one of the treatments for stress urinary incontinence (SUI). Kegel excercises aren’t just for women, men can also do them to achieve orgasm without ejaculation and perhaps reach multiple climaxes during sexual activity.

How do I do the exercise?

• Identify the muscles

First you need to find your pelvic floor muscles. Try to tighten your muscles around your vagina and back passage and lift up, as if you’re stopping yourself from passing water and wind at the same time. A quick way of finding the right muscles is by trying to stop the flow of urine when you’re on the toilet. Don’t do this regularly because you may start retaining urine. Once you’ve found the muscles, make sure you relax and empty your bladder completely.  You can add resistance to the exercise through gripping a hard object such as a Kegel exerciser.

• Contract the muscles correctly

The movement is an upward and inward contraction, not a bearing-down effort. When you first start the exercises, check that you are doing them correctly. Put your hands on your abdomen and buttocks to make sure you can’t feel your belly, thighs, or buttocks moving. Don’t hold your breath. You should be able to hold a conversation at the same time or try counting aloud while you’re doing the exercises. Don’t tighten the tummy, thigh, or buttock muscles because you’ll be exercising the wrong muscle groups.
 
You need to train your pelvic floor muscles through repetition, in the same way as you would train a muscle.

• Slow contractions

Slow contractions help to increase the strength of your pelvic floor. They help your muscles to hold back the urine. Lift your pelvic floor muscles to a count of ten. Hold the muscles tight for 10 seconds. You may find at first that you can only hold the contraction for one or two seconds, so concentrate on lifting your muscles and holding the contraction for as long as you can. Gradually increase the time until you reach 10 seconds. Relax your muscles and rest for 10 seconds. Repeat the contractions up to 10 times.

• Fast contractions

Fast contractions help your pelvic floor to cope with pressure, for example when you sneeze, cough or laugh. This works the muscles that quickly shut off the flow of urine. Lift your pelvic floor muscles quickly. Hold the contraction for one second. Relax the muscles and rest for one second. Repeat the contractions 10 times.

How do I know they are working?

You can test your muscle strength with the stop-start test. When you urinate, partially empty your bladder and then try to stop the flow of urine. If you can’t stop it completely, slowing it is a good start. Try the test every two weeks or so to see if your muscles are getting stronger. Don’t do the test more often than this.

The pros of pelvic floor exercises

They’re simple, cheap and effective. You can do them when sitting, standing or lying down.

The downside of pelvic floor exercises

You have to keep doing them for the rest of your life. It can take up to 15 weeks before you see any difference. If you haven’t noticed a difference after three months, see your doctor.

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