Men and women like to be pleased orally but they don’t necessarily know how to give good fellatio or cunnilingus. Here are some tips on giving good oral sex to your partner.

Fellatio

The basics for both start with teasing your partner. When you are giving oral sex to your male partner then you would start at the head of the penis and tease it with your tongue since it is the most sensitive part. You’ll slide your hand up and down his penis, closing it slightly when you reach the top and opening it slightly as you move back down. While doing this keep his penis moving in and out of your mouth (lips covering teeth) which should be applying a firm but comfortable pressure. Now you can lick his penis with long slow movements.

Also try twisting your head to one direction as your hand twists gently the other way. Men can find it very erotic to watch you lick their cock so be sure to remember that part of sex is showmanship; look him in the eye and while you do dirty things to him. Judge his reaction and what he likes and match it with that you are comfortable doing. Tease your partner by changing the speed, get him really aroused by moving faster and sucking harder and then slow down so that he does not reach orgasm. Take him to the very brink of orgasm (not easy) and then slow him down.

Don’t be shy about adding something a bit tasty to your playtime. A little flavored lubricant, chocolate, honey, pop rocks, ice, a sip of something hot or anything else that you think tastes good will make this a feast that can satisfy both of you. Pop some toothpaste in your mouth before you put his penis in your mouth and it will give a very cool feeling (temperature-wise). Another trick is to try popping an Altoids into your mouth before you begin. These curiously strong mints can give a fabulous tingle.

A question that always gets asked is what is deep throating and how do I do it? Deep-throating is where you take the whole penis into your mouth rather than keeping a hand or two on it. This can be very difficult and uncomfortable, resulting in gagging. If you aren’t comfortable deep-throating your partner it’s ok because the head of the penis is the most sensitive part anyway so that’s what’s most important.

Discuss the matter of ejaculation before you start. Always remember to keep an open line of communication between you and your partner as to what both of you like and dislike. Try new things and see what works and what doesn’t.

Cunnilingus

If this is your first time giving cunnilingus then you’ll want some light on so that you can see what you are doing and where things are at. Women need to be teased as much as men when giving oral sex. You can begin by stoking and kissing her body and then teasing her by stroking her genitals.

Something that you want to ask her is if she likes it slow or fast and gentle or hard. Some women may not know so you may have to experiment and see what works best. You’ll want to start by wiggling your tongue around and over the clitoris and then move into longer strokes with your tongue. Remember that it’s not all about her clitoris. You need to keep your hands moving all over her body and keep a good rhythm going. She will let you know when to stop so keep going until she tells you to or pushes you away.

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Most women want to receive oral sex more than their partners want to provide it. It’s hard to get this technique but here’s a few helpful hints.

You don’t want to be too rough because you will hurt her instead of pleasuring her. Then again you don’t want to be too gentle and nothing will happen or it takes too long. Once you find your technique don’t change it. Also, don’t stop in the middle of it and leave her hanging.

If you haven’t done this before, you’ll want to keep some light on so that you can see what you are doing. Light some candles or dim the lights instead of having no lights at all.

Next, let your partner decide which position she wishes to adopt as she’ll want to be relaxed and comfortable which equals a better chance of orgasm. She may want to lie back while you’re at the foot of the bed or even act out a slave fantasy by standing up.

You can now begin by slowly stroking and kissing her body. Spend lots of time; work your way around her body then, when she’s been teased enough, start gently stroking her genitals.

Leave her underwear on and stroke through the fabric – when she becomes moist whip them off. Now is a good time to ask her how she likes it: slow or fast; gentle or hard. Make sure your tongue is nice and soft – don’t point or tense it.

Start with indirect stimulation: wiggling your tongue around and over the clitoris. Then, move into longer, wet, gentle strokes with your tongue keeping a slow but steady rhythm. Make sure you’re not being too rough and make sure she knows how much you’re enjoying it.

Keep a good steady rhythm up for maybe ten to fifteen minutes and if you’ve covered all the right areas your partner should be close to orgasm. Remember not to just focus on the clitoris. You’ll know when this is because her body will tense and she’ll probably be shouting words of encouragement at the top of her voice! Before she orgasms, try popping your finger into her vagina just to heighten the pleasure – she’ll let you know if she doesn’t like it.

Finally, don’t stop until she tells you to or pushes you away.

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Every woman wants to know techniques for giving oral sex to her male partner and here it is.

You should start with a little teasing. Tease the head of the penis with your tongue. The head is the most sensitive part of the penis. Pay particular attention to the tip of the penis. This is the equivalent to the female clitoris; it is a super-sensitive bundle of nerves.

Basic Technique:

Slide your hand up and down the penis, closing it slightly when you reach the top and opening it slightly as you move back down. While doing this keep his penis moving in and out of your mouth (lips covering teeth) which should be applying a firm but comfortable pressure.

Next lick his penis as if it were a lollypop, using long slow movements over the head and up the sides. Take his penis into your mouth and swirl your tongue around the head.

Deep-throating is where you take the whole penis into your mouth rather than keeping a hand or two on it. This can be very difficult and uncomfortable, resulting in gagging. If you aren’t comfortable deep-throating your partner it’s ok because the head of the penis is the most sensitive part anyway so that’s what’s most important.

Don’t be shy about adding something a bit tasty to your playtime. A little flavored lubricant, chocolate, honey, pop rocks, ice, a sip of something hot or anything else that you think tastes good will make this a feast that can satisfy both of you. Pop some toothpaste in your mouth before you put his penis in your mouth and it will give a very cool feeling (temperature-wise). Another trick is to try popping an Altoids into your mouth before you begin. These curiously strong mints can give a fabulous tingle.

Also try twisting your head to one direction as your hand twists gently the other way. Men can find it very erotic to watch you lick their cock so be sure to remember that part of sex is showmanship; look him in the eye and while you do dirty things to him. Judge his reaction and what he likes and match it with that you are comfortable doing.

Tease your partner by changing the speed, get him really aroused by moving faster and sucking harder and then slow down so that he does not reach orgasm. Take him to the very brink of orgasm (not easy) and then slow him down. Enjoy it (he will), you are in complete control.

Discuss the matter of ejaculation before you start. If you would not like him to ejaculate in your mouth, let him know that and ask him to give you a shoulder tap or maybe a verbal announcement before this happens. You can also have him wear a condom (flavored, if you like) so he can let his ejaculate go without discomfort or awkwardness.

Always remember to keep an open line of communication between you and your partner as to what both of you like and dislike. Try new things and see what works and what doesn’t.

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Tip # 2: Fellatio: Where To Start »

Tip # 3: Spit or Swallow »

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Tip # 1: Fellatio

Fellatio is the technical term for oral sex performed on a man. Its root is from the Latin verb meaning “to suck.” For many men, oral sex is a more intense experience than intercourse. This is due to the concentration of stimulation to the penis by mouth, tongue, and hands. Each man has different areas of concentrated sensitivity, so it’s important for a man to communicate what is pleasurable to him during oral sex. If he is not comfortable speaking out loud about his needs, he should gently guide his lover either with his hands or let her know when she’s doing the right thing by making some oral indication such as telling her he likes what she’s doing or sometimes even just a moan will send the message!

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Tip # 2: Fellatio: Where To Start

If a man is already aroused when you begin to perform fellatio, keep in mind that moving right to the sucking portion of the experience may be too much. Begin by kissing around the area. Massage his hips and thighs, even his belly. Running your fingers over his scrotum and up the shaft of his penis is a nice warm-up. You can begin to use your mouth, again, by kissing around the penis thereby building up arousal even more. There are a lot of nerve endings throughout the penis, with most of them concentrated at the tip. When you do take his penis into your mouth, keep this in mind. Don’t spend too much time stimulating the tip, rather lick along the length of the penis and return to the tip throughout the experience. As he gets closer to orgasm, more time can be spent on direct stimulation. Some men enjoy when their partners use their hand to duplicate the sucking motion of their mouth. Others prefer not to be stroked as well. Experiment to find out what your partner likes best.

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Tip # 3: Spit or Swallow

An uncomfortable question for a lot of women is what to do with a mouth full of semen after oral sex has ended. Some women have no problem swallowing the fluid. Some even enjoy the taste. Others are disgusted at the thought. There are a couple of options for discreet semen disposal. Women who don’t mind swallowing can simply collect the semen under their tongue, where there are no taste buds before swallowing. If she really doesn’t wish to swallow, she can always continue sucking during ejaculation and, if using her hand, let the semen serve as a final lubricant to enhance the final moments of release.

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Tip # 4: Cunnilingus: Where To Start

Begin by making sure the woman is comfortable, preferably reclining, perhaps with a pillow under her hips (this can assist you as well by giving you a better angle). Kiss and or gently lick around the outside of her vagina, up over her belly, and along her thighs. You can spread her labia — the “lips” of her vagina — with your tongue or fingers and tease around the clitoris. It’s not advisable to begin directly stimulating the clitoris as some women find this too intense. Once you’ve built up enough arousal, softly lick on and around her clitoris. Alternate movements of your tongue, paying close attention to how she reacts. This will allow you to learn which movements she likes more than others. You may also wish to incorporate penetration of the vagina with a finger or two. You can stimulate her G-Spot by curving your finger upward toward the front of her vagina while stimulating her clitoris with your tongue. Be creative with your cunnilingus technique and listen to your partner to discover what works for her.

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