Men and women like to be pleased orally but they don’t necessarily know how to give good fellatio or cunnilingus. Here are some tips on giving good oral sex to your partner.
Fellatio
The basics for both start with teasing your partner. When you are giving oral sex to your male partner then you would start at the head of the penis and tease it with your tongue since it is the most sensitive part. You’ll slide your hand up and down his penis, closing it slightly when you reach the top and opening it slightly as you move back down. While doing this keep his penis moving in and out of your mouth (lips covering teeth) which should be applying a firm but comfortable pressure. Now you can lick his penis with long slow movements.
Also try twisting your head to one direction as your hand twists gently the other way. Men can find it very erotic to watch you lick their cock so be sure to remember that part of sex is showmanship; look him in the eye and while you do dirty things to him. Judge his reaction and what he likes and match it with that you are comfortable doing. Tease your partner by changing the speed, get him really aroused by moving faster and sucking harder and then slow down so that he does not reach orgasm. Take him to the very brink of orgasm (not easy) and then slow him down.
Don’t be shy about adding something a bit tasty to your playtime. A little flavored lubricant, chocolate, honey, pop rocks, ice, a sip of something hot or anything else that you think tastes good will make this a feast that can satisfy both of you. Pop some toothpaste in your mouth before you put his penis in your mouth and it will give a very cool feeling (temperature-wise). Another trick is to try popping an Altoids into your mouth before you begin. These curiously strong mints can give a fabulous tingle.
A question that always gets asked is what is deep throating and how do I do it? Deep-throating is where you take the whole penis into your mouth rather than keeping a hand or two on it. This can be very difficult and uncomfortable, resulting in gagging. If you aren’t comfortable deep-throating your partner it’s ok because the head of the penis is the most sensitive part anyway so that’s what’s most important.
Discuss the matter of ejaculation before you start. Always remember to keep an open line of communication between you and your partner as to what both of you like and dislike. Try new things and see what works and what doesn’t.
Cunnilingus
If this is your first time giving cunnilingus then you’ll want some light on so that you can see what you are doing and where things are at. Women need to be teased as much as men when giving oral sex. You can begin by stoking and kissing her body and then teasing her by stroking her genitals.
Something that you want to ask her is if she likes it slow or fast and gentle or hard. Some women may not know so you may have to experiment and see what works best. You’ll want to start by wiggling your tongue around and over the clitoris and then move into longer strokes with your tongue. Remember that it’s not all about her clitoris. You need to keep your hands moving all over her body and keep a good rhythm going. She will let you know when to stop so keep going until she tells you to or pushes you away.