My apologies, it has been brought to my attention that I have yet to introduce myself. My alias should be Jumbled Brain Jazzy but you, wonderful readers, can refer to me as Jazz. I’m an odd and unpredictable person as you will soon find out in my future posts, more importantly, I’m chock-full of random facts, and lastly I’m pretty amazing.  But enough about my ratings on the amazing scales, on to the good stuff.

I just moved into a new place of residence and so I’ve been cataloging some home décor ideas and I noticed I couldn’t go through a Better Homes and Gardens or a Crate and Barrel magazine without finding a bed or couch adorned with pillows. That got me thinking. Funny enough, the pillow originated as an accessory for the solely for the wealthy;  and as time progressed, attention was placed on the delicacy and elegance of the dyes and sewing techniques which led to pillows being viewed as pieces of artwork. Often pillows were simply hard boxes made from stone, wood, or porcelain instead of fabric and stuffed cotton as we know them today.

Evidently, pillows have come a long way. Instead of using them for strictly pieces of art, slumber, or as a confirmation of your wealth, I say, honor the serious histories your pillows endured for playtime. Slip a pillow underneath your lover’s hips to maximize penetration and provide a new angle for G Spot stimulation. Or place a pillow under his head while she’s on top for a better view and angle to stroke, touch, and fondle your lover.  Pillows also come in handy if you need additional back support during intercourse. Lying on a firm surface with pillows under your knees has been studied that this position relieves pressure off of the spine and restores the natural curve to the back.

Now I will admit, it takes a little bit of patience and creativity to incorporate pillows into intercourse.  If you find you’re getting frustrated and fizzled about what pillows to use, additional laundry cycles, or positioning, don’t fret! Try the Temptations Parties Wedge by Liberator to add the sizzle back in the bedroom. The Temptations Parties wedge is a cushion made of dense core foam to provide the support you need during those pleasure-maxing positions and it comes with a removable machine washable cover for easy cleaning. The wedge is an awesome accessory to own, remember “It’s all in the angles!”

No, not like Angelina Jolie, Mick Jagger or Marilyn Monroe, but rather are you aware when your mouth is unsexy? We’re all human and I’m sure I’m not the only one who wakes up with funky morning breath, but before initiating or partaking in even the preliminaries of lovemaking, you should at least abide by these three tips to create a sweet palate for your lover to explore.

First, invest in an electric or sonic toothbrush. Compared to manual brushing, it is more effective in cleaning. It is proven that the electric and sonic toothbrushes result in better plaque removal, whiter teeth, and a fresher breath.

Next, swish and spit. Add mouthwash to your grocery shopping list. With regular uses of mouthwash after brushing not only are you guaranteeing sweet aromas to escape from your mouth but it gets rid of the plaque and gum problems that aid to an unsexy mouth.

And lastly, sip on some green tea. Amongst the many health benefits of green tea, it has been stated by Indian and Chinese practitioners that green tea assists in the depletion bacteria that causes bad breath. Add a dollop of honey to sweeten your tea and you’ll have an arsenal of bacteria fighting weapons as honey has been found to kill mouth bacteria and lower mouth acidity levels creating a more difficult environment for the bacteria to stick to.

1. Hold the bullet against the clitoris during sex. In the missionary position it will stay in place with less help. In the doggy style position have your partner reach around and hold it against you. Orgasm will come much easier with clitoral stimulation in addition to vaginal stimulation.

2. When performing oral sex on your man, use it around his testicles and anus and lockjaw will be a thing of the past! He can use it on you too during oral, rubbing it around your vagina and clitoris. His tongue will appreciate it as much as you will!

3. Use alone. A bullet is one of the most popular toys available for masturbation. Try starting off rubbing it along your inner thighs to build up excitement before moving on to the more obvious.

4. Use with an attachment. There are many sleeves and rings and such that are made to use along with a bullet. The Wittle Wabbit Sleeve is a favorite, with delightful ears to tickle your fancy.

5. Give him the remote. With a remote controlled bullet, put the bullet inside your panties and surrender to him!

6. Insert vaginally or anally, but make sure you are using a bullet with a cord before doing so. If he is up for it, insert it anally in him during sex- it will massage his prostate and blow his mind, but don’t expect it to last long!

7. Use on nipples. This is especially nice if you have two bullets. What could be better than one for each nipple while he takes care of you down below?

8. If you do have two, use on each other simultaneously.

9. Take your waterproof bullet in the bath or shower for some fun water play.

10. Use during a massage. The vibrations feel great on the sole of the feet and pressed against knots and tight muscles in the back.

We’ve probably all encountered a man that is threatened by sex toys. He thinks you want a toy because he doesn’t please you, or that he won’t be able to compete with the toy, when the truth is sex toys can be used to enhance the pleasure of both partners. I don’t think any of us would rather have the toy than the man, but they sure can be great together.

            If you have been wanting to introduce toys to your relationship but are worried about how your partner will react, the trick is to start off slow. Don’t bring home a life sized penis shaped vibrator first, as he may view that as a replacement for him. You can get to that, but first you have to build the foundation.

            A great first “toy” for a couple is the Sensual Bath Set. It comes with a Kama Sutra of Sensual Bathing book, and a soft vibrating spa sponge and it’s built in water-resistant bullet. It’s cutesy and fun, nothing any man would be threatened of! Run a bath, light some candles, maybe put on some light music, and ask him to join you. Enjoy the bath for a bit and when he gets relaxed and in the mood start giving him his sponge bath! If he’s loving it, go wild! If he seems a little reluctant, just stick with his upper body for a bit, and then let him bathe you. He may just be more comfortable taking the lead himself.

            Later in the week read the book with him to get more ideas on a sensual bath, or leave it for him to find and read on his own. After you’ve taken several fun baths together and he has no problems letting the vibrating sponge wander, you are ready to graduate on to your next toy! Just remember to let him know it is about enhancing the pleasure for both of you if he still has any qualms.

I’m going to share with you what has been my most popular oral sex trick for years. All of my friends have reported back with rave reviews, and it is quite simple. When you start to give your man a blow job, before you really get into it, tease him for a while. I like to pretend his penis is an ice cream cone! I know it sounds silly, but it really works! Think about how you eat an ice cream cone. You lick it from bottom to top, or around and around. Just occasionally you put the whole thing in your mouth. Sometimes you have to catch that melting bit before it drips off. Do this for a few minutes before you really get into the sucking and see for yourself how much he loves it!

Do you need a little more convincing to pretend it’s an ice cream cone? Well wouldn’t you know there is a banana split flavored Happy Penis Massage Cream? Just rub some on and lick the yummy banana split away! It will even do double duty- taste great for you and make him feel warm and tingly.

I’ve been dishing out sex advice for over a decade now, but this is the first time in writing. I must admit that while I’m excited about this new venture- I’m also a bit nervous, maybe even a little awkward. I don’t quite know how far I should go yet, but it won’t take long to get a little more down and dirty.

It’s a lot like the first time with a new partner. I’ve been with the same man for a while and sometimes I miss that nervous excitement; the stumbling along and bumping heads and figuring each other out. If you’ve been monogamous for a while and miss the newness, you can always find some other “firsts” to experience together. Summer is perfect for having your first time on a blanket out in a field, or in a tent while camping. You can have plenty of first times together at home too. My man recently shaved my legs using the Sensually Bare Shaving Cream for the first time. Talk about nervous! But oh, what a turn on! Not only are my legs silky smooth, but we had a great time doing it together.  Just start thinking of things you haven’t done together yet, and I guarantee it will get your blood pumping!

Is having sex better than getting a raise? According to an economist at Dartmouth College, it is. He did a study of 16,000 people on sexual activity and happiness and found that sex is so important to happiness; he says “increasing intercourse from once a month to once a week is equivalent to the amount of happiness generated by getting an additional $50,000 in income for the average American.” Wow!

If stress from work or raising a family has put a damper on your sex life, I don’t know of a better reason to revive it. If it’s been a while and you feel awkward making the first move, do it subtly. Just lighting some scented candles will signal your partner that you are in the mood, and if you need a little help getting in the mood yourself, choose a pheromone candle. The Simply Sensual Pheromone Candles come in white lavender or pomegranate ginger, and while they smell fabulous, they also release chemicals called pheromones that increase sexual attraction. And if that wasn’t enough, instead of melting into hot candle wax, they turn into warm massage oil. Now that will definitely get you both in the mood! 

Many people don’t like to go to an adult store so this gives them a way to purchase what they would like and see what new things are out there while being in the comfort of their home or a friend’s home.

Try the Temptations Home Party business.

1. Before your home party be sure to meet with the hostess personally. Make sure she is familiar with the products that you carry. Help your hostess come up with a guest list. Remind her of people she could invite such as friends, family co-workers, neighbors and many other places. Tell her to remind guests to bring a friend.

2. Be sure to also give your hostess some catalogs to show possible guests or maybe guests that aren’t available for the time of the party. Make her aware of whether or not she may take orders before the show. Review your hostess rewards program with her. Be sure to review the order forms with your hostess so she can help customers place orders.

3. Explain the delivery process. Will the merchandise come directly to her or will you be bringing it to her? Will you be distributing the merchandise to her guest or will she? What are the delivery charges and who pays for them?

4. Discuss plans for refreshments. Is she expected prepare refreshments or will you be bringing them? What are you going to have?

5. Arrive at your hostess’s home early before the show. Does furniture need to be moved? Make sure there is enough and proper seating so that each guest will be facing the center of the display. Also be sure there is enough lighting for everyone to see.

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By: Anita DeFrank

Well Sinclair Institute has put their latest video Great Sex for a Lifetime on it and they are giving it away!

I was able to get a sneak peak at the movie on the iPod Touch and I can’t believe the quality! It was like I was watching it on my television except it’s a smaller version. The movie was so crisp - can’t beat the quality. I know I’d love to win this and having the movie already on there is great.

I’ve already purchased Great Sex for a Lifetime so they will put a different video on there for me!

Enter to win the iPod Touch. You can enter once a day until 11:59 p.m. ET on May 14, 2008.

In order to orgasm from oral sex you need him to use consistent steady strokes. The easiest way for him to do this is the lick up and down but you are more likely to orgasm by him running his tongue across your clitoris. Have him situate himself perpendicular to you lying on his side. He’s able to work his tongue more easily at an angle that’s optimal for your pleasure.

Although your inner bad girl may get off on the idea of being caught in the act, the real you may not feel right about sneaking off to a bar bathroom but you can feed any secret exhibitionist appetites by having sex in front of a window with the lights off. Stand up against the window facing out and have him take you from behind. You’ll get a rush from just the possibility of being watched.

You love you on top because you can control the speed, angle, and motion and he loves you on top because he can just lie back and watch. What you may not realize is that if he sits up then he can enhance his pleasure. Sex is more intimate with your torsos pressed together.

Let’s be honest: Most guys are just grateful to be getting a blow job. Rather than simply moving up and down use your tongue to slowly wind around his penis. Swirl up the shaft with the tip of your tongue. When you’re at the top slide your whole mouth down and then up with a sucking motion.

Sexy moments can strike when you least expect them. So seize the chance to spice up a night on the couch. Have him use his fingertips to slowly, gently caress your skin. The light sensual touch creates a tingling sensation that will wake up your body while also relaxing you for sex.

To be in the study you must be a woman who has had both ovaries surgically removed, be currently taking an estrogen supplement and be distressed about your lack of libido. Having both of your ovaries removed can lead to a drop in sexual interest because ovaries produce about half of the testosterone in a woman’s body. Testosterone plays a key role in sexual functioning for men and women.

LibiGel comes in a pump bottle. The woman rubs the small dot of gel into the skin of her upper arm. Over the next 24 hours, the gel’s testosterone seeps into her bloodstream, boosting her energy and libido.

A lot of women have this problem but unfortunately they’ve been largely ignored. Keep an eye out for LibiGel and see if it passes all of the tests.

Sex before the big game can hinder your performance. Research has found that sex before the big game does not impair athletic performance. As far as aggression goes, scientists have suggested that the increased levels of testosterone that come with sexual activity may actually lead to higher rates of aggression the next day which would improve one’s athletic performance.

Men reach their sexual peak at 18, while women reach it in their mid-30’s. Physical and sexual primes are not the same thing. A man’s testosterone peaks at age 18 and women’s estrogen levels actually hit a high point in her mid-20s. Don’t let preconceived notions trump your game at any age. Peaks vary from person to person, with most people realizing their full passion potential in their ability to feel more sexually secure with themselves and their partners.

Drinking alcohol makes for better sex. Alcohol in small amounts (1 or 2 drinks) can increase one’s sex drive and interest and decrease sexual inhibitions. High amounts of alcohol impairs your judgment and decreases your ability to perform which will negatively impact your sexual response.

Love is all you need for mind-blowing sex. This is not always true. The ultimate in lovemaking is realized through communication more than anything.

Singles have more sex than couples. You’re going to have the optimal amount of sex possible if you’re living with your partner. You are also having more luscious lovemaking than the singles. With married couples in particular having higher quality sex because they have trust and connection then they have more ability to sexually explore each other and pleasure one another.

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Not every woman feels comfortable with baring her bottom in a sexy thong. Put some thought into what body parts she feels most comfortable with and choose lingerie to complement.

A few ideas:

Show off nice legs in something short like a baby doll or short chemise.
Play up good cleavage with a halter or bustier style.
Display toned arms with a camisole.

Have fun

Get her in touch with her inner child by choosing fun prints like cherries or clouds. Or appeal to her wilder side: animal prints, lace or bold colors like red are perfect.

Colors

Black, red and white (or off-white) look good on almost everyone. Blondes look great in pastels, and brunettes can carry off stronger colors like purple and emerald green. Redheads do best with greens, blues and earthy tones.

Soft touch

If you like touching the garment, she’ll like wearing it. Velvet, silk and satin have lots of tactile appeal. If you’re buying online, stick with fabrics that you already know what they feel like.

Get comfy

Casual, updated intimates come in styles like tank tops, bikinis and p.j.s. Look for cotton, flannel or other naturally cozy fabrics.

Sizes

The best way to find her correct size is to ask.

Alternatives: you can snoop around the lingerie drawer to find the sizes of stuff she already owns. Or you can guess (tricky territory — Lingerie.com even promotes the amusing “fruit comparison” method for finding cup size.)

Presentation

Don’t forget to wrap the lingerie (or have it professionally wrapped) with beautiful paper and a lots of lush tissue paper. You can get creative and make bags or baskets with related items, like a book of poetry, a bottle of champagne or great-smelling body products and candle.

Key styles

Chemise - A straight gown that skims the body.
Negligee - A loose, usually sheer, gown.Peignoir set - Negligee that includes a matching sheer robe.
Babydoll - A short gown that fits around the bust, flares toward hemline.
Pajamas - Pants and top, originally styled after men’s p.j.s.
Bustier - A usually strapless elongated bra that provides extra lift to the breasts.
Camisole - A sleeveless top that can be paired with matching undies or worn under a jacket for work.
Teddy - A one-piece style, similar to a bodysuit.
Tap pants - Soft, very short version of boxing shorts.
Thong - Provides coverage in the front of the panty with a thin strap in the back.