Anal sex is a topic that most people want to learn about and possibly try but they don’t want to talk about it. It’s one of the “forbidden pleasures” in life.

The highest concentration of nerve endings is around the anal opening and you can use a finger or tongue to focus on this area. For many this will give you enough stimulation. Others may like an object to be inserted beyond the opening. The inner portion of your rectum responds mostly to pressure.

If this is your first time then you may want to try some anal pleasure on your own. Take a warm bath or shower and clean the area well. Next relax and take a moment to touch the area with a finger or two. Apply different types of pressure to your anus to discover where you feel sensation most. You may wish to insert a finger into your anus a small amount at a time. Be sure you have proper lubrication to ensure an easy movement; you should never force anything in there. Pay attention to your body’s instinctive reaction. Your sphincter may clamp down and squeeze your finger and this is normal. Simply stop moving and concentrate on relaxing your sphincter. Practicing on your own will allow you to be more comfortable if you choose to try anal sex with your partner.

Always keep in mind that you should never place your penis or any toy that has been in an anus directly into a mouth, vagina, or anus. You must wash thoroughly to avoid any bacteria from traveling to these areas. A generally safe bet is to use a condom during anal sex.