Your online dating profile photo is the most important part of your profile. Surveys have been conducted where the results prove you are 10 times more likely to get your profile looked at by someone searching on the online dating service when they can see you. This isn’t the only reason why you should have your photo uploaded, there are many more.

Some singles will think they have a good reason not to upload their photo. They might be embarrassed about putting their profile on a dating web site, or feel their photo will hinder their chances of finding a date. Whatever reasons you think you have for not uploading your profile photo not many other singles will see them as good.

Most singles when they first register themselves at a dating web site will fill in the basics so they can start searching the profiles. Then you get the singles who are looking for someone who still only fills in the basics so they can start searching. When other singles see these profiles they will just ignore them. The reason being they just think you’ve registered to search the profiles. Your profile will not look like you’re seriously looking for a date.

If other singles see you have no profile photo they can automatically assume you’re hideously ugly. In which case they will not want to click on your profile. Looks aren’t the be-all and end-all of a relationship but that initial spark usually comes from being attracted to someone’s looks. It’s the first thing on your profile anyone will notice. If there’s no photo they’ll just look for one with a photo.

Online dating services will give singles with a photo on their profile priority in other single’s searches. They are running a business so they’re not going to put a load of search results on someone’s screen with no photos on them. They want singles to get together so their dating service becomes a success. Other singles can specify that they don’t want to be contacted by singles without a photo on their profile so you won’t come up in their search results at all.

Other singles can also assume you’re hiding your face because you’re already in a relationship. Some married people or those in a relationship go online to have affairs. Uploading your photo shows you’re honest and have nothing to hide. Online dating services will advise you in their own help sections to avoid contacting singles with no photo. They want to keep everything as honest and up front as possible.

With your online dating profile photo you keep the dating web sites happy, and keep the other singles clicking on your profile. If you don’t make either of these happy you won’t get the results you’re after. You’re there to find a partner so make it look like you’re looking for one.

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by Jason King

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Tip # 2: The Kama Sutra »

Tip # 3: Adult Sex Videos »

Tip # 4: Erotic Cinema »

Tip # 5: Erotic Literature vs. Pornography »

Tip # 6: Home Sex Videos »

Tip # 7: Internet Erotica »

Tip # 8: Write Your Own Erotic Story »

Tip # 9: Erotic Film Trivia »

Tip # 10: Watching Together »

Tip # 1: Being a Better Lover

Many of us want to know how to have better sex. Luckily there are plenty of products and services on the market to help us gain that knowledge. For some, watching an educational sex video is helpful. For others, doing research by reading up on new techniques — and then putting them in practice at home — is enough. Many couples learn together by joining seminars and events that are geared toward enriching their sex life together. There is no shortage of assistance available to those who want to learn how to be better connected to their mates sexually. There is no one right way, so be open to trying new things and most importantly, have fun!

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Tip # 2: The Kama Sutra

Contrary to popular belief, the ancient book of The Kama Sutra — or, Aphorisms on Love — was not intended as a sex manual. These sacred writings form India about sexual union were only a portion of the book‚Äôs deeper message of spiritual wholeness. Still, Kama Sutra sex positions are illustrated and explained in many modern sex books and videos as a means to develop our sexual acumen. Many of the [tantra positions] are not so different from what we already practice. For example a position which is called The Splitting of the Bamboo is very similar to an alternate version of the Missionary position, in that the woman places one of her legs on her lover’s shoulder, and stretches the other out, then switches the position of her legs. Experimenting with different lovemaking positions such as the ones illustrated in the Kama Sutra can help add excitement to ones lovemaking.

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Tip # 3: Adult Sex Videos

Adult sex videos are a helpful method for spicing up your sex life. Whether or not you have a partner, watching adult films can certainly assist you in improving your skills as a lover, but many of the how-to videos and DVDs are extremely educational from a scientific standpoint. Many feature commentary by medical doctors and licensed sex therapists, who offer invaluable knowledge about how the male and female body functions during sex. In addition, you are often able to view real couples putting lessons they learned into practice, which serves to demonstrate that we are all capable of having satisfying sex lives.

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Tip # 4: Erotic Cinema

The adult movie industry has made great strides since the old days of “stag films.” With developments in film and video technologies, these films are looking and sounding better than ever. The desires of the adult movie-viewing public have been heard as well, and now many films are so well-written and acted that they have attained the status of “erotic cinema.” There are even annual awards shows — much like the Academy Awards — held to honor the best in adult film industry.

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Tip # 5: Erotic Literature vs. Pornography

There has been an ongoing debate over what constitutes erotic literature versus pornography. The deciding factor in English-speaking courts has often come down to the notion of perceived literary merit. (If it has it, it’s literature; if not, it’s porn.) Historically, the conflict came about in response to works aimed at men, which often depicted explicit sexual acts. Many of these also contained erotic visual imagery (illustrations of sex acts) which were easier to prosecute than arguing the meanings behind the written word. In the US, the First Amendment protects written fiction, but many other countries have made erotic writing illegal, regardless of whether it is literary or pornographic.

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Tip # 6: Home Sex Videos

With the availability and affordability of home video recording equipment, more and more couples today have begun making their own sex videos. Shooting your own videos with you and your partner as the stars is a great way to keep the thrill in your sex life. Some long-distance lovers even film lovemaking sessions so the distance won’t be so hard to take. In addition to recording sex on tape, many long-distance couples use web cameras to have sexual encounters over the Internet. This is a bit riskier, since the Internet is so heavily used and security can be compromised. Although homemade sex videos are usually meant to be seen only by those making them, there is also a huge market for what is commonly called “amateur porn.‚Äù

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Tip # 7: Internet Erotica

The Internet has brought with it a new era of erotic film and literature. This boom in both industries is due in part to the fact that the more discreet consumer does not have to face a store clerk or postal worker. Not only can you find sales of quality erotic books and films online, but there are entire sites devoted to both categories. Erotic magazines (or, e-zines) abound, with a varying array of quality short stories and longer works. There are thousands of sites geared specifically toward erotic video clips and feature films as well.

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Tip # 8: Write Your Own Erotic Story

If you’re at all good with words, or even just good at relaying a tale, you might consider writing an erotic story for your partner. It’s an excellent tool for seduction and a fun exercise for you. One of the best things about erotic literature is that there are as many genres of erotic writing as there are in non-erotic writing. From science fiction to mystery, the options are endless. Don’t know what to write about? Try recounting your favorite sexual experience with your partner. Add as many details as you can so that when your lover reads the piece, s/he can relive it. Here’s a tip: If you get aroused while writing your story, it’s almost a guarantee your partner will when s/he reads it.

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Tip # 9: Erotic Film Trivia

The very first kiss on film was between a Victorian couple seen in the Edison kinetoscope “The May Irwin Kiss” in 1896. This groundbreaking film is also known as “ The Kiss,” or “The Irwin-Rice Kiss.” This 20-second short film was merely a close-up of a kiss. It was considered shocking and pornographic to early moviegoers. Even the Roman Catholic Church called for censorship. Heating things up even more, less than a year after the Lumieres conducted the first public screening of a film in December 1895, actress Louise Willy was rumored to have stripped for the French film, “Le Bain” (“The Bath”).

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Tip # 10: Watching Together

One of the most fun bonding experiences for couples is watching and erotic film together. There are a few things to keep in mind, however, before you get started. First, make sure you both are interested in seeing the film. There‚Äôs nothing fun in leaving your partner behind in an attempt to have a good time. Choose the film together. Make sure there is something about it that you both will enjoy. After all, you both will be sharing the experience. Lastly, have fun! Watching the film together may or may not result in the two of you having sex, so don’t expect anything. Just have a good time. It‚Äôs most important that the two of you have done something together as a couple.

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Content by BetterSex.com - the #1 Authority on Sex. Tip # 1: Lubrication »

Tip # 2: Stress-Free Sex Positions »

Tip # 3: Communication »

Tip # 4: Setting the Mood »

Tip # 5: Increase Stimulation »

Tip # 6: Finding A Partner »

Tip # 7: Advanced Thinking »

Tip # 8: Getting Help »

Tip # 9: Timing is Everything »

Tip # 10: Beyond Intercourse »

Tip # 1: Lubrication

As they age, women often find a decreased level of natural vaginal lubrication during arousal. This is particularly true for women who are post-menopausal. After menopause, their vaginas are also often less flexible than they were during younger years. For women of any age, having insufficient lubrication during intercourse causes intense discomfort and even severe pain. For older adults, it is often necessary to introduce a water-based personal lubricant to lovemaking. In this way, vaginal dryness is alleviated, and intercourse is much more pleasurable. Men can use the lubricant as well, for additional stimulation and ease of penetration.

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Tip # 2: Stress-Free Sex Positions

There may be occasions when sexual positions that were once favored when you were younger are not as comfortable for you now. In this case, it’s good to have a few new positions to rely on so sexual connectivity with your partner is not interrupted. The best positions for intercourse that does not put undue stress on your muscles or joints are the ones where both partners are lying on their sides. If both partners face each other on their sides, the intimacy is still maintained, and you can look each other in the eyes. Another suggestion is to ¬ìspoon.¬î Here, the man enters from behind, while both partners are lying on their sides.

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Tip # 3: Communication

No matter what your age, open communication is key to a healthy sexual relationship. Perhaps this is even truer for older adults. By discussing sexual issues with your partner as they arise fewer misunderstandings will occur. For example, one partner may feel pain during sex due to arthritis or some other physical ailment. His or her interest seems to be waning, and the other partner may feel rejected. Without effective communication, this small misunderstanding can weaken or even destroy a relationship. Communicating with your partner about what you want and what you do not want in a clear and positive way is arguably the most important part of a healthy sexual relationship.

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Tip # 4: Setting The Mood

No one can dispute the importance of taking time to seduce your lover, regardless of what phase of adulthood you are in. Older adults, however, typically benefit more from the added effort placed in setting a relaxed and sexy mood prior to lovemaking. There are many ways to accomplish this. Taking baths together, having a romantic meal at home (try this in the nude for added spice), even sharing stories of how you met and became attracted to each other. All these can aid in guiding you effortlessly into sexual activity. Once these efforts have been made, the sex itself should be a more gratifying and well-rounded experience for you both.

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Tip # 5: Increase Stimulation

As we know, older men take longer to achieve an erection as they age. Once they have gained one, it often is not as strong as it once was. This is caused by less rapid blood flow. Older women experience a similar effect: decreased sensitivity in the clitoral area. This, too, is caused by less blood flow to that region. Decreased sensitivity equals less pleasure. In both cases, more stimulation of the genital area may be required. If manual or oral stimulation is not sufficient, other methods can be used. Try incorporating a vibrator into your lovemaking sessions. There are many versions on the market, and not all are penis-shaped. Some are small enough to fit in the palm of your hand, and work quite nicely to stimulate specific smaller erogenous zones like the clitoris, the perineum, and the entrance to the anus.

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Tip # 6: Finding A Partner

If you find that you are single in your older years, you may think that your sex life is over. Think again. More and more of us are living longer and better. That means there are more people your age living vital lives than ever before. Just as it is when we first started out in the world of sexuality, attitude is everything. Being the best person you can be, getting out there and active, will increase you chances of meeting a new partner. Whatever your interests are, start attending cultural outings or lectures where you’re likely to find older adults. You may even wish to start your own group. Getting older doesn’t mean having to give up a healthy sex life; you just have to keep your heart and mind open to all opportunities.

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Tip # 7: Advanced Thinking

Unfortunately, American society holds many negative stereotypes about aging and the efficacy of older adults. Unconsciously, these messages may cause older individuals to wonder whether they are being frivolous for wanting to continue having sex or holding onto a sex drive in the first place. Perhaps they think they should have somehow outgrown it. This is nonsense. Physiologically speaking, there is no indication that sex drive has to decrease as we age. In fact, older adults have years of knowledge and experience. In fact, it would make more sense if younger adults were to seek advice from their elders. Try to keep positive attitudes and ideas like these in mind. There is no expiration date for desire, so enjoy it!

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Tip # 8: Getting Help

There are occasions when older adults will need special assistance in their sex lives. Sometimes the assistance is the use of a simple tool, like a vibrator, to help a partner achieve arousal in situations where their partner may have arthritis pain and is unable to stimulate his/her partner manually. On other occasions, the assistance needed is psychological. When older men, for example, experience impotence, it is often not due to aging, but rather medications illness, or psychological problems such as depression. While it is normal for any man to have problems getting an erection during sexual activity every once in a while, older men are more prone to it and over time this may cause anxiety. In turn, this anxiety can increase and negatively affect his entire sex drive. Seeking professional psychological assistance could help overcome this sexual problem or others like it.

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Tip # 9: Timing is Everything

For older adults, more time may be needed to achieve full sexual arousal. Older men generally take longer to achieve an erection and the penis may be less rigid. On the other hand, they are less likely to ejaculate prematurely. Older women, too, typically require more time to allow for sufficient lubrication. Even if an artificial lubricant is being used, she still deserves the time to get aroused mentally. This can be a blessing! Taking more time to tend to you and your partner’s sexual needs is a great way to prolong intimacy, and even each new heights of pleasure you didn’t in earlier years. Try making love in the morning, after a good night’s sleep. Not only is it a nice way to start the day, older men are more likely to have a firm erection in the morning.

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Tip # 10: Beyond Intercourse

For some older couples sexual intercourse with penetration may not be possible. This can be due to physical restrictions or disease, among other causes. This does not mean, however, that you and your partner must give up a healthy sexual lifestyle. In fact, a lesson every adult should learn is that sex does not have to be all about intercourse. Sexual intimacy with your partner can be expressed in a number of ways. You may wish to explore mutual masturbation, sensual massage, oral sex, or shared fantasies. Keeping your sex life healthy just requires a little imagination and desire to please your partner.

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